There have been times in my life and career that I’ve wanted and needed a coach, but a personal coach was not in my budget. Several months ago I purchased a book that I had no idea came with a free 30 minute personal coaching session. I was a little skeptical because I knew the “free” call would end with a sales pitch for more coaching sessions that I couldn’t afford, yet I decided to schedule the coaching call anyway.
When it came time for the call, the 30 minute session went 45 minutes. Though there was a low pressure sales pitch at the end with a bunch of different pricing options that I expected; my over the phone coaching experience was like leaving the gym knowing that I got a really good workout in. It was amazing!
As I reflect on that coaching call there were some things I was reminded of and learned in that 45 minute window that I wanted to share with you.
1. Someone needs to be asking you the right questions. We get asked questions all the time! How are you? How are things going? The problem is general questions like these get general answers such as “fine” and “good.” The coach on the other end of the line asked me specific targeted questions to get detailed feedback. She was digging for dreams and goals that had been buried for years. As she dug deep she discovered disappointments, unfulfilled personal expectations and along with it a desire to still do something significant with my life. The coach drilled down until she hit what she was looking. Who is asking you the right questions?
2. Someone needs to help you get unstuck. Some friends of mine recently went 4 wheeling with their off road vehicles that usually never leave the main road. They purchased them for their large families and not necessarily off road recreation. After cruising some back roads for a bit, they ventured off into the mud where they soon found themselves stuck unable to get out. That is like our lives some times when we venture down roads we’ve never been down before and we find ourselves stuck in a situation we did not foresee. My friends had to call a friend that had a truck equipped with a winch to pull them out. Sometimes we need to call on coaches that are better equipped to get us unstuck in life. Whether it’s financial jams, marital issues, personal struggles; if we refuse to make a call to someone that can help us we will remain stuck in that area of our life. Who can help you get unstuck?
3. Someone needs to shoot straight with you. It’s hard hearing the facts, but the real fact is we won’t change if we just get some good ideas and suggestions on what we should do. By the end of the call this coach had nailed some things that I needed to address. Things that were robbing me of personal significance and success. Obviously the plan to fix those things had a price tag attached to it but nonetheless they were pin pointed in a 45 minute conversation. Who is shooting straight with you?
In 45 minutes I learned that I need someone asking me the right questions, helping me get unstuck, keeping me on the right path, and constantly shooting straight with me. I have recently found a coach that has committed to helping me in these areas. Who is helping you?